Who am I if I give up?

Who am I if I give up?

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For you is it hard or easy to give up?

Giving up is sometimes the moment of a new beginning. I heard many people saying that the day they give up on something things start to get better without a logical explanation.

Sometimes success is coming to our life “dress” in a failure, and after a while we may realize that the moment of giving up is not the end is just a new beginning.

For some people is very hard to give up, they live covered in frustration being unable to move further with their life.

Sometimes we get stuck in unpleasant situations, is hard to get up from bed in the morning and the day is like a huge mountain in front of us.

When money get into the problem, the situation is getting worst.

We may realize we get stuck into:

Unpleasant job, low paid, with colleagues we don’t like
A competition, we don’t want, we don’t create
A toxic relation with our family, friends, any other close person
An unhappy marriage
You name it …..

 

Sometimes we blame people around, or God, or faith for the situation.

A more mature approach is to assume our life and our decisions…. Including the decision to stay or to leave, to continue the fight or to give up.

As I said before, it is proven that when money get involved into this relation things are just getting worst and all aspects are changing. I will continue with the same examples to continue with idea.

What holds you back? What keeps you stick to the unpleasant situation?

Situation What holds you back
Unpleasant job, low paid, with colleagues we don’t like Big salary, big expenses, loans you have to pay
A competition, we don’t want, we don’t create Your relation with someone close to you, your job, the money
A toxic relation with our family, friends, any other close person Living in the same house, having a business together …
An unhappy marriage Your house, kids, debts, lack of money
You name it …..

 

I was wondering why people get to a point of being unhappy but instead of changing something they just complain. Most of the times making a change is not even in their intention!

People are afraid of making mistakes, afraid of suffering more, afraid of other people opinion.

You feel it like a failure?

Failure can be an option. Will not make you weak, will just make you human. Failure can be a lesson you need in other to move forward.

Not all failures are measurable in money but also not all successes can be measurable in money. Sometimes you need to fail or to give up to learn your lesson and then to be able to continue your way for better things and better life!

For some people “giving up” is simply not an option.

Why? Because of the feelings and emotions they have.

Situation What holds you back Feeling, emotions
Unpleasant job, low paid, with colleagues we don’t like Big salary, big expenses, loans you have to pay Being afraid – how I will handle? What is next? I will find another job? Better something I know than something new I don’t know.
A competition, we don’t want, we don’t create Your relation with someone close to you, your job, the money… If I give up I may look as the weak one, the coward, looks like I should always loose, like I am not important…
A toxic relation with our family, friends, any other close person Living in the same house, having a business together … I am right, I shouldn’t give up, is not fair they to win, I am not a coward, I have to prove them right aso
An unhappy marriage Your house, kids, debts, lack of money Being afraid – how I will handle? What is next? What people will say? What about the kids? They are going to blame me? aso
You name it ….. What people will say? If I make a mistake?

 

But what if ……. you simply give up? If you get away from this situation that get you stuck into something making you unhappy?

How you will see yourself?

One version: I am a weak person, I am a coward, not serious, selfish, not able to handle a situation, not responsible. My value will decrease.

The version: I am a strong person, a winner, self-confident, happy and wise. I am smart enough to understand my value, and to fight for my dreams. There is nothing wrong with me. I am fine as I am and every day of my life should be a blessing for me and the people around.

Make a decision

If you cannot give up, accept the situation, stop complaining and start doing something for better. Stop poisoning yourself with bad thoughts and unrealistic scenarios.

Give up, gain your self-esteem, and decide to fight for you and your values. Simply say: My value will increase every day! I love and respect myself. I will do this for myself! If I am fine with me, everything will be ok.

Use any opportunity to change who you are.

Is ok to give up and start over. Don’t see it as an end, see it as a new beginning!

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